Resources For Bisexuals

Books, graphic novels, publications, and podcasts that will help you get multiple perspectives on being Bi.

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Books on Bisexuality & Gender

Bisexuality/Pansexuality (being attracted to multiple genders) and gender non-conformity frequently overlap.
Scroll through this selection we’ve compiled, and feel free to reach out if you want to add a book that helped you!

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Feminist bisexual and genderqueer activist Shiri Eisner takes readers on a journey through the many aspects of the meanings and politics of bisexuality.
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Getting Bi addresses this by collecting 220 personal essays from 185 bi+ authors from 42 countries (from Australia to Zimbabwe).
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Presented in a brilliantly engaging and witty style, this is a unique portrait of the universe of queer thinking.
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This was recommended by one of our members; he said it helped him on his journey to embrace himself as a bi man. ❤️
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This ground-breaking book looks at how non-binary methods of thought can be applied to all aspects of life, and offer new and greater ways of understanding ourselves and how we relate to others.
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From Sophie Gonzales comes Perfect on Paper: Leah on the Offbeat meets To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before in this YA romcom, where a bisexual girl who gives anonymous love advice to her classmates is hired by the hot guy to help him get his ex back.
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The Savvy Ally: A Guide for Becoming a Skilled LGBTQ+ Advocate is an enjoyable, humorous, encouraging, easy to understand guidebook for being an ally to the LGBTQ+ communities. It is chock full of practical and useful tools for LGBTQ+
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Is our gender something we’re born with, or are we conditioned by society? In The End of Gender, neuroscientist and sexologist Dr. Debra Soh uses a research-based approach to address this hot-button topic.

Publications

Articles on coming out as bisexual and Bi culture.

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5280 MAGAZINE:
For the Members of Bisexual Group BConnected Colorado, Community Is Revolutionary
How a bisexual group called BConnected Colorado is, well, connecting queer Coloradans.
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NY TIMES
The ‘Double Closet’: Why Some Bisexual People Struggle With Mental Health
Even as more people identify as bisexual, persistent stigmas remain, with many not feeling fully accepted by their communities.
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AUTOSTRADDLE:
Three Bisexuals in Their 30s on Coming Out While in Long Term, Monogamous Relationships
For Bisexuality Visibility Day, I want to specifically address a question that bi+ people get all the time: “Why did you come out if you’re already in a monogamous relationship?”
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NY TIMES:
I Don’t Know Who Needs to Hear This, but You Are Bi Enough
After telling someone I’m bi, I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard, “You know, I’ve never met a bisexual person.” I always reply the same way: “You’ve never met an out bisexual person.”
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FRONTIERS:
“Why Do I Need to Come Out if Straight People Don’t Have To?” Divergent Perspectives on the Necessity of Self-Disclosure Among Bisexual Women.
Coming out has historically been an important yet often very challenging process for LGBTQI + individuals to no longer conceal their sexual and/or gender identity.
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AUTOSTRADDLE:
You Need Help: Why Be Out As Bisexual?
Howdy! I’m an out and proud bisexual woman. A good friend of mine who identifies as lesbian recently asked me why bi+ folx don’t just stay closeted and in hetero relationships to avoid the prejudice, pain, and judgement that so often comes with being gay. I was a bit taken aback by this question.
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BBC:
Why sexual identities shifted during the pandemic
With time to contemplate and reassess, some people have begun exploring new sexual identities and other desires “beyond the binary”.
AUTOSTRADDLE:
How Can I Be My Authentic Self While Navigating Bi-Erasure and Biphobia? There are so, so many different ways to be queer, and to be bisexual specifically. For some people, it feels right to be, as you put it, “quietly bi” or queer, and some people, like you, really want to make a splash about coming out and put their queer identity front and centre in their lives.

Bisexual Podcasts

A few favorite podcasts to help you on your journey of coming out as bisexual.

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A podcast about fluid sexuality, gender, masculinity and femininity, intimacy, relationships and more — hosted by two bi guys.
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News, information, support and entertainment for all of us under the umbrella.
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Why go through your life with one hand tied behind your back? Triple Bi-Pass is JOY’s first show with a focus on bisexuality.

Books on Non Monogamy

Many Bi people face the monogamy issue at one point or another after coming out. Non-Monogamy is extremely nuanced and takes patience and a commitment to understanding yourself, your partner(s), and everyone’s communication style. No one book has all the answers, but hopefully, you’ll find guidance and inspiration in one of the many books on the subject.

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Having a friend or family member come out to you as polyamorous can be confusing and stressful. Chances are, you have a lot of questions: Is this just a phase? Won’t they settle down someday? What’s going to happen to their kids? Do I have to invite all their partners over for Thanksgiving dinner? Why can’t they just keep it in the bedroom?
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Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you’re striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual non monogamy.
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The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today’s modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships. 
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Can you love more than one person? Have multiple romantic partners, without jealousy or cheating? Absolutely! Polyamorous people have been paving the way, through trial and painful error. 
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For many folks seeking to open up their lives and relationships, the road ahead is uncertain and foggy. Outside of traditional monogamy, relationship structure options and guidelines are often murky at best. This book seeks to demystify the basics of healthy, consensual non-monogamy by sharing the lessons learned from both Minx and thousands of podcast listeners who have built successful polyamorous relationships. 
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Contemporary relationships are in a state of rapid evolution. These changes can and should empower people with the opportunity to develop partnerships based on their own sexualities, understandings, and agreements. This makes it possible to create what Kenneth Haslam, founder of the Kinsey Institute’s Polyamory Archive, has called “designer relationships.” 
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Have you read “that book” on non-monogamy and still wondered “But how do you actually DO this?”Are you totally great on the theory of open relationships, but feel like you don’t know how it works in practice?Join Dr. Liz Powell, psychologist, speaker, and coach, as she draws from her education, research, and life experience to bring you Building Open Relationships. 
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The issues that make monogamous dating daunting for people of color—shaming and exclusion by white partners, being fetishized, having realities of everyday racism ignored—occur in polyamorous relationships too, and trying “not to see race” only makes it worse. 
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No one likes a know-it-all, but everyone loves a girl with brains and heart. The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory is an intelligent and comprehensive guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other forms of alternative love, offering relationship advice radically different from anything you’ll find on the magazine rack.
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Polyamory is not always easy. With multiple partners often come more complex relationships to navigate. This practical guide looks at the common causes of polyamorous breakups, identifies strategies to avoid ending relationships, and provides you with the toolkit to survive a breakup.
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After trying for years to emulate her boomer parents’ forty-year and still-going-strong marriage, Sophie realized that maybe the love she was looking for was down a road less traveled. In this bold, graphic memoir, she explores her sexuality, her values, and the versions of love our society accepts and practices. 

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