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Trapped between Layers of Trauma: Growing Up Queer and Uyghur in China

“My parents are freaking out because I’m not married yet, and I don’t think either they or I can stand it anymore,” they sighed. “My parents are so scared I’m going to miss my childbearing years. They’re forcing me to get married.” Their eyes suddenly grew darker, and they looked down to gaze into their tea. Without looking at me, they continued, “I can’t do it. I have got to get out of here. I have no choice but to leave. I mean, I want to leave China.”

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Queer Culture in China

Bisexual Life / By threebrodsky

I wanted so badly in that moment to say I was bi. I had already looked up that word in the English-Chinese dictionary months before. The official translation was shuangxinglian, literally translating as “double sex love.” I didn’t know the slang for it yet.

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Picking Up The Clues to My Identity

Bisexual Life, Coming Out / By threebrodsky

I can now say with certainty that I am happy that my personal truth won out, and that I am now able to accept who I am and live a life more aligned with the burning I had felt all along in my soul.

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Becoming and Being a BConnected Story

Bisexual Life, Coming Out / By Community Member

I didn’t know how to communicate to others that it felt natural to be infatuated with anyone who was smart or magical.

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Bleeding While Being Non-Binary

Queer Bodies, Queer/Bi Life / By Community Member

My bleeding and my relationship to it cannot be contained or explained by a heteronormative gender binary.

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I’m My Lesbian Lover’s Exception

Bi Dating & Relationships, Bisexual Life / By Community Member

I am so lucky to be my lesbian lover’s exception.

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I Am Proud Of My Complexity

Bi Dating & Relationships / By Community Member

I was excommunicated from the church of lesbian purity and found myself identified with an assortment of colorful weirdos who are too varied to fit under any one label.

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Life Is A Process of Becoming, A Combination of States We Have To Go Through.

Bisexual Life / By Community Member

Growing up in a small, rural town in Colorado during the 80’s and 90’s meant that I had very little real life exposure to anything queer. Despite that, when I reminisce about my youth, I knew I was different by the time I was 13. I suppose I could thank Anne Rice and Anais Nin

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Bconnected Colorado, an Origin Story

Coming Out / By threebrodsky

When I was trying to come out, not only to myself but my family as well, I was grappling with the data around being bi and what I could see around me in terms of any kind of bi-ness–which was absolutely nothing. At 36 I had never met anyone using the bisexual label. Bisexuals are the largest group under the LGBTQ umbrella….but nearly 70% of us are closeted….What?!….Where are these people and why are we all living like this? Short answer: To save myself.

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My Name is Three.

Bisexual Life, Coming Out / By threebrodsky

It’s absurd to change one’s name to Three as an adult. I’m aware of that.

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FINDING MYSELF IN CHINA

Bisexual Life, Queer/Bi Life / By Community Member

I was immersing myself in a Muslim community for the first time. I was still learning the basics of what it meant to eat Halal and fast during Ramadan. I soon learned what people were saying. Like never before in my life, my gender was a cornerstone in most social interactions.

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