Community Member - Bconnected Colorado

Trapped between Layers of Trauma: Growing Up Queer and Uyghur in China

“My parents are freaking out because I’m not married yet, and I don’t think either they or I can stand it anymore,” they sighed. “My parents are so scared I’m going to miss my childbearing years. They’re forcing me to get married.” Their eyes suddenly grew darker, and they looked down to gaze into their tea. Without looking at me, they continued, “I can’t do it. I have got to get out of here. I have no choice but to leave. I mean, I want to leave China.”

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Growing up in a small, rural town in Colorado during the 80’s and 90’s meant that I had very little real life exposure to anything queer. Despite that, when I reminisce about my youth, I knew I was different by the time I was 13. I suppose I could thank Anne Rice and Anais Nin …

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FINDING MYSELF IN CHINA

Bisexual Life, Queer/Bi Life / By Community Member

I was immersing myself in a Muslim community for the first time. I was still learning the basics of what it meant to eat Halal and fast during Ramadan. I soon learned what people were saying. Like never before in my life, my gender was a cornerstone in most social interactions.